Hello Wordies

I'm Randie.

I have written myself out of many hells and back into sense. My sensible findings: I could have joy.

 

 Words with Randie was created to manifest that joy. I believe language will save us all and it is my hope that in the telling of my personal stories--the joyous and the difficult--we will accept all the things that make us, us. 

 

So, let's be vulnerable. Let's drop the ego and normalize honesty. Let's tell and take control of our narratives.

 

We have more in common than we know and I hope we can relish in our commonalities and grow together.

Wordie Love: What Readers are Saying

"I never got a chance to read this when this came out, but I am so glad I got to read this today. Having similar family of origins as Mikey and how we have had to unlearn things about our Blackness or masculinity or feminism/anti-sexism (the list could go on) it's so beautiful to see these discussions happening in y'all's union and your willingness to have these conversations. Healing is not linear and y'all have been vulnerable with the masses to show that is true as well. I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks for your words Mikey and Randie thanks for dedicating a post to this."
Jeff Martin
"An Intimate Conversation with a Black Man"
Yes, Randie! So relatable! I often see small issues that I don’t want to look crazy over. I try not to be “that girl”. I don’t want to make a big deal about something that’s probably not a big deal in the eyes of anyone else. I tell myself it’s something I can be mad about, get over, & handle myself, but in turn, I just build up this slick attitude and anger towards him that he doesn’t deserve because he doesn’t even know the issue or I said it was fine. Definitely something I’ve had to learn over time. Now I’d rather look crazy, too lol
Shanice Cook
"Three Lessons I learned When I Declared ' I'd Rather Be Crazy' "
The juxtaposition of the innocent word “daddy” with “he took my kindness for weakness..so historically I’ve allowed the men in my life to use me” made me shutter. I am a firm believer in psychosocial development – that our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors. Much respect to your sister for her discernment of how her past has influenced her relations with men. That is powerful, raw and honest and strong. I am encouraged to try these prompts with my younger brother.
Aryelle Richards
"An Intimate Conversation with a Sister: Family, Reconciliation, & Love"
"Listen. I can relate to this so much. Not with mentors, per say. But, with friends and colleagues. Men, who I love but who place a premium on their maleness and who forget that I’m not just black…I am a woman too. It’s been tough and uncomfortable. And you’re right…it's me that changed. So, they don’t get it. Even when I try to explain it. I’m seen as radical and extremely liberal and just…different. Mourning/grieving the loss of what once was…is so real."
Dr. Yarbrah Peeples
"Growing up and Outgrowing Mentors"
Randie, all I can say is: THIS. In this perfect post from the real world, you have challenged the silence that this world encourages, and the pain that it inflicts. You have challenged the world that says we are to blame for everything that happens to our bodies, the world that teaches us that our voices and emotions don’t matter. You have not only stood up for yourself, but for those of us who still suffer in silence. Keep speaking, and pursuing the peace that you deserve.
"M"
"Freewrite: Confessions of a Wannabe Overcomer of Assault"
My favorite stories are always about your mom and how you view and admire her! Any mom who reads your blogs have to have a sense of double security in knowing our parenting has long term good lasting effects, AND that you hear us and see us in all our imperfections of loving our spawns!
W. Mona Scott
"Thoughts on the Humanity of Mothers"

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