I am overworked, underpaid, and tired.
Many of us are.
Not only am I work exhausted but lately I’ve been consumed with thinking about the worst-case scenarios of the future.
I need a mental break.
Therefore, as a toast to the end of a season I am going to give myself some guilt-free rest for a few days. I’m talking sleeping in and staying up because y’all we made it!
2. Indulge in Spontaneity
It was a routine morning for us when my husband asked me if I wanted to be late to work for some good-good.
Immediately I looked at the clock and saw that while he would be on time, I would be late. Long story short: I spent the whole day kicking myself for being lame and taking a rain check.
My husband laughed and brushed off my despair about being a boring wife but the next morning I was like:
In the end it was a shit day but a great morning.
So, I’ve promised myself moving forward to be more spontaneous and indulgent.
3. Write and Read
Since the jig is up about my future plans, I’m looking forward to devoting real time to my craft.
Last summer when I started the blog I was able to push out at least 2-3 posts a week while 1 post a week, this school year, has been a feat for me.
But it’s not just blogging either. There are books I need to read to help me with syntax and grammar skills. I’ll finally have time to create pieces for submissions to blogs and magazines, and I’ll be able to devote some much needed leisure time to reading novels.
I’m a learner and I am real big on competence. I’m ecstatic to get better at what I love to do.
4. Body Positivity
Goddamnit I’m gonna buy (and wear) some shorts this summer!
I’ve never owned a pair as an adult because I’m afraid I’ll look crazy. But bump that.
I’ve also started Weight Watchers.
Well, re-started it. I was on it in college and I loved it. The program really helped keep my eating on track.
Also, while I am constantly doing my best to love and be good to myself with who I am now, I have fitness goals I want to reach. I’m learning my goals are nothing to be ashamed of and they don’t mean I hate myself. Besides, I’m trying to stunt for my 25th birthday, haha.
5. Prioritize Spouse Time
My husband and I are big community people. We like hanging with couples and family but we’ve realized we need to prioritize more intimate and fun time together.
Strangers can tell we need this time too.
A few days ago I received a brief massage, courtesy of my job, and the woman I was paired with said: “You’re really tense, here” (my waist) and “You haven’t had any children. Here let me give you some info about my doula practice.”
After our session I ran to the nearest phone and called my mother who instructed me to hang up and hunt down the intuitive masseuse.
I asked her why she gave me a doula pamphlet and she burst out laughing.
Y’all know where I’m at when it concerns babies so you can imagine how my heart stopped at her big smile.
She said she gave me the pamphlet so I could relax. Babies will come when they need to, and she can tell we haven’t had fun in a while. All statements were true. It’s been stressful in the Chapman household for all the adulting reasons you can imagine.
Thus, I’m excited for some time that’s outside of our routine as of late.
What about you, Wordies?
What are your plans for yourself this season?
Photo: Beyoncè, XO Music Video